Thursday, March 22, 2007

Making Decisions

We noticed that when the year 2007 started, we were bombarded with a lot of big opportunities that entail us to discuss, brainstorm and argue in order to come up with decisions we deemed wise.

Last month was the job assignment in Japan which I rejected due to reasons that I cannot afford to leave my spouse with our 14-month old baby for a long period of time and there are some very important family plans we need to execute this year. We admit coming up with such a decision is very difficult for us. If we only let ourselves be lured with the financial gains that overseas assignment bids then our decision is otherwise. Money is always one of the deciding factors indeed. But we stood firm on our decision and we are happy with it, no feeling of remorse whatsoever.

We may find the answer if we closely discern what's behind our decision which we thought of a million times to refuse the job assignment in Japan. Right now we face again one of the biggest crossroads we've been into so far. The most awaited letter from the embassy Marvin applied for a citizenship approximately five years ago arrived last night requesting for an update on some documents to push through with the application process. But why the excitement we're suppose to feel was replaced with anxiety and apprehensions? Probably because a lot of things have already changed, priorities placed on position, plans while on the waiting period are on the verge of execution and we already are three now (Marvin applied when he was still single).

(URGENT: we should comply with the requirements within 60 days)


Coming up with a decision might not be as difficult as we expect if we only don't have a kid. We'll not be having second thoughts if it's currently Marvin and I to leave. Don't get us wrong on blaming our darling Bea, we're just unselfishly deciding because we don't want to subject her to immense changes if we decide to migrate overseas. It's no simple life migrating abroad without family and relatives to inhabit with. We're not comfortable envisioning our first months or years there acquiring a permanent job to sustain our family's needs. It's obvious that only my husband can work full time since I'll be taking care of our daughter. This is where fear started to creep because our current condition here in the Philippines is still tolerable somehow. It's the fear for the unknown.

Pessimism might have clouded our decision making because it was fear we first started to feel. On the other side of the coin, our life overseas might just be the one we've always been dreaming of. There's always this premise that no guts no glory. If we could withstand the birth pains of pursuing life outside our country land, using the best of our abilities and skills to survive then we'll most likely to succeed.

Whatever our decision may be, we'll see to it that it has been seriously thought upon countless times because it will change our life forever. We hope that God will always guide us and let His will be done on our family.

3 comments:

Nezha said...

Hello,

Test. Si jasper to or japser as hara used to say.

San yung beach na nakita ko sa friendster mo? ang ganda a. gusto ko puntahan with my family one I go on vacation there..

Tuloy mo na yung abroad no. Once in a lifetime lang yan. Sana asus, five years in the making. Andun din si jet nga pala and he tells me sobrang ganda daw dun. Lagi nga ako inaaya na mag-apply na rin e. No worries daw atchaka maganda talaga for raising a family.. dau..

anyway.. yung name ng place owkei?

Riz Candazo said...

hi! dou desu ka? =)

Hirap nga mag-decide eh. Super daming what-ifs. Having a somewhat stable status here. Chaka medyo nakakatakot din. Extending our comfort zone to a foreign land... sigh..

Apply ka din dun! Mukhang mabilis na lang ata processing ngayon kase nauubos na naman workforce nila =)

Regarding sa beach, sa may Vistamar Resort sa Batangas yun. When ka uuwi? I'll gladly assist you pano punta sa place =)

Riz Candazo said...

hi Jas!
Mali pala, i thought yung beach na naka-post sa blog ko. Yung sa friendster pala..hehehe .. Malayo yun.. sa Pearl Farm Davao.. =)