Memo

The incident that happened to me yesterday has got into my nerves but it stunned me when I even dreamt about it last night. So I decided to let it out via this writing.

I barely take my AM/lunch/PM breaks without getting my hands on my tasks. Perhaps I’ve got used to this kind of discipline in my 9 years of stay in the company I'm currently working with. Keeping myself busy rather than doing anything that don’t contribute to my skills and personal improvement. But something cropped up yesterday that changed my paradigm at work. This is the very first time that I received a verbal warning via email about the most trivial offense I’ve committed in lieu to our office policy on work schedule (break-time). That is brushing my teeth approximately an hour after our lunch break.

Now hear me out.

What is 3 minutes of brushing my teeth compared to:

- the summed up hours that I spent in the company for free coz we’re not allowed to file overtime in fractions of an hour. I’ve been doing this for 5 years now.

- the times I didn’t take my break coz I opt to continue with my work.

- spending a quarter of my life loyally working for this company.

And how about:

- those in the 23rd floor that can freely do what they like coz nobody seemed to see nor be bothered by their violations.

- those employees who also broke the work schedule policy on break-time but were not apprehended coz nobody from the HR staff caught them in the act?

- those people in position who are also guilty of this policy, one way or another, coz they seemed to be working, pretending to be busy the whole day in front of their monitors, when in fact, their activities don’t concern work.

I’m not against the person who issued me the memo. Not because she is my friend and kumare but I understand that she’s just doing her job. What boils me to anger is if such policy exists, then all those responsible for its implementation must execute it by all means. Apprehension shouldn’t be a game of chance.

The law must apply to all or none at all.

The First Time I Loved Forever

During our meeting with the band that will play on our wedding, I was caught unprepared on my assignment of coming up with a song for my wedding march. There were a lot of titles they sang and suggested, usual favorites of the bride they said. But I never liked any of them. I sometimes don't settle for what is common. I always wanted to be unique. So to somehow show respect for their effort, I picked up a song from their list, temporarily, until I come up with the song of my own liking.

After cramming on some CDs and a lot of MP3 files saved to our PC, I instantly fell in love with this song after I’ve completely heard and read its lyrics. I chose it without any doubts and I never regret chosing it at all. My entrance at the church was never any more grand because of this song. It was very unique, solemn, lovely, full of emotions and touching. Even I cannot describe the way I felt while marching in the aisle. I told myself not to cry but the song hit me deeply, but still, I was able to manage a smirk.

Read on... this song says it all. I dedicate this to the only man in my life, my beloved Marvin.



Lyrics by Melanie Safka
Music by Lee Holdridge
Sung byLisa Angelle
(From "Beauty and the Beast")
With excerpts from the poem “Somewhere I Have Never Traveled, Gladly” by the American poet E.E. Cummings

Poem:
“Somewhere I have never traveled
Gladly beyond any experience
Your eyes have their silence
And your most frail gesture of things
Which enclose me
But which I cannot touch
Because they are too near.”


The first time I loved forever
Was when you whispered my name
And I knew at once you loved me
For the me of who I am

The first time I loved forever
I cast all else aside
And I bid my heart to follow
Be there no more need to hide

And if wishes and dreams
Are merely for children
And if love's a tale for fools
I'll live the dream with you

Poem:
“oh, if your words be to close me
I, my life will shut, very beautifully
Suddenly, as when the heart of this flower
Imagines the snow carefully, everywhere
descending”.

For all my life and forever
There's a truth I will always know
When my world divides and shatters
Your love is where I'll go

Poem:
“I do not know what it is about you that closes
and opens. Only something in me understands
the voice of your eyes is deeper than all roses.
Nobody, not even the rain has such small hands.”

So long Rebong . . .

I'm posting this email as permitted by the writer, Jasper Roy L. Rebong, coz I find his last email from tspi.com.ph very amusing but with deeper meaning that will leave us pondering on our current work status.

By the way, Jasper is my classmate in college and we became officemates for 9 years until he resigned last month for a greener pasture in the land of the rising sun.

Enjoy reading =)


last words
from: jrebong@tspi.com.ph

What's the best thing about tsukiden?

Well, they gave me a break, allowed me to buy a car, the projects sharpened my c/c++ skills,I had new friends, meet new people, see japan, learned japanese.
To anyone and everyone who contributed to my growth -thank you. I hope I was able to contribute something to you too...

What's your most memorable experience during your stay here?

Here is my top six list (btw: most of them happened in japan)

6. I saw miss kimura smile.(btw: the smile was directed to Magsombol)

5. I ate sausages, and nothing but sausages for the whole week. I only stoped when my eyes started to go blind.

4. I tried to buy a prepaid card. I was explaining the concept to the store attendant, and after about 10 minutes of silently listening to my japanese explanation, he very slowly said (in english)- "oh, so you want to buy a prepaid card?"

3. I was PL of a very large project. Problem was, there were only 4 of us. The resulting bug list took5 minutes to open. The reset bugs alone numbered nearly into the hundreds..
After that project, the japanese manager was promptly re-assigned and was never heard of again..(I think he might have killed himself)
*So ye gads, please, please, always do proper estimates*

2. I passed an english document to a client, and some other japanese rose up and explained why the document's grammar was bad, etc.. etc.. I was boiling in anger inside and it was a good thing my manager was near me beacuse I was nearly tempted tosay "Oh, so you know english? I didnt think it was supposed tobe funny".

1. So I was sitting in my chair teaching an impressionable young engineer, when I felt the need to discharge some uh.. gases.. anyway, he resulting smell was so putrid I nearly fell off my chair.. But get this, the engineer pretended not to notice and decides to hide his disgust by pretending to scratch his nose. (I guess he didnt want to offend me. )If I look close enough, I can even see tears starting to form from his eyes. After that I excused myself and went to the bathroom to die in uncontrollable laughter..

Good Times!

btw: the engineer was not a "he" - it was a "she".

What's the worst thing about tsukiden?

Sing this in the parokya tune
Meron ba kayong position after manager?
-> wala
Meron ba kayong retirement plan?
-> wala rin po
Meron ba kayong car plan?
-> ubos na po

Okay, be serious...

Okay, before i say anythings, let me say that I have had my share of defects. I'm inherently lazy. I tend to just do the minimum requirements of the job and not much else. However with that said, there is one thing I'm not guilty of.

This -

Some engineers, PL, JS, S, EM go to work everyday, day after day after day, and show no noticable improvement. Neither in technical, nor in japanese, nor in management. Sometimes, not even in their interpersonal skills...
I mean c'mon, I'f youre doing something everyday for the last five years, wouldn't you at least become proficient in it? Its counter-intuitive, but it happens all the time.

To give a specific example, raise your hand if you
a.) Was able to pass level 3 or level 2
b.) Learn a new programming language
c.) Learned a new library, a new function call, maybe a new design pattern in the programming language he/she does know
d.) Learn and "applied" a new management technique
e.) Made a new friend?

I dont know - Maybe you think the good times wont change?Maybe layoffs and the likes wont happen. No? No chance of that happening? Really? Okkaayyy... but dont say I didnt try to warn you.. *whistles*

(Anyway, And this really gets to me - worst of all, you show nothing, zilch, zero, null, 0x0000h, maru, rei, nada. But you have the gall to expect promotion... As some of my lady friends used to say "The nerve...")

But anyway, to each his own i guess...

Why did I do it?

a) Its all about the benjamins(or in this case the hirohito's)
b) Prairie is too hard. I bailed out before the proverbial alien matter hits the fan.
c) I wanted to be be able to come back, wearing a white hat, unbuttoned flowery shirt, and yellow large necklaces. I will then proceed to say loudly "And init naman dito sa pinas", while wiping my forehead while my face is contorted in a picture of genuine disgust.

No really, why did you do it?

I just have this wanderlust. This need to travel. To see the world, to read another page of the book so to speak.I want to wake up one morning and be able to say to my wife - "Come on baby, pack your bags,we're going to the bahamas". You know, that costs money.The only way I can do such a thing is if I cut my spending and save everything till I have enough - or I can try to find a job which will allow me to earn the money necessary to finance such activities.

Guess which way I chose?

Besides I really want to be able to say "Anginitnamanditosapinas".I've even registered a site for it.
Go check it out:www.anginitnamanditosapinas.com.ph

just joking guys (or am I?)

Anyway, I hope we see each other again.Some more than others.. haha..(just joking2x)

ja ne..

Happy Birthday Lolo Mario!

Today is the 60th birthday of Bea’s lolo (Marvin’s dad and my father-in-law). We’re supposed to have planned a celebration with catered food and a little party with the family, his co-workers and his friends. But lolo Mario doesn’t want to throw an extravagant party to celebrate his birthday as well as his retirement (he’s scheduled to retire at the end of August after 36 years of working in Meralco). Instead, we had a festive lunch with some close family members last Sunday.

Soft-spoken and a man with a few words he is, the only comment I’ve heard from him about his age is that he‘s now eligible to acquire the senior citizen’s card.

Happy birthday Lolo Mario! To good health and long life =)

When I Met You

Picking out a song for our wedding AVP is one of the stressful parts of the preparations since we don't listen much to music these days due to our busy schedule and we don't consider any theme song. So a music-listening marathon was set every night until we have settled and agreed on one song.

This song soon caught my attention upon hearing it thrice on air. The beat is just perfect, the message is lovely and the duration is long enough for AVP-editing worth. =)


Title : When I Met You
Sung by : Apo Hiking Society


There I was an empty piece of a shell,
Just mindin' my own world;
Without even knowin' what love and life were all about.

Then you came,
You brought me out of the shell;
You gave the world to me
And before I knew,
There I was so in love with you.

You gave me a reason for my being
And I love what I'm feelin'
You gave me a meaning to my life,
Yes, I've gone beyond existing
And it all began when I met you.

I love the touch of your hair
And when I look in your eyes
I just know, I know I'm on to something good

And I'm sure my love for you will endure
Your love will light up my world;
And take all my cares away with the aching part of me.

You gave me a reason for my being
And I love what I'm feelin'
You gave me a meaning to my life,
Yes, I've gone beyond existing
And it all began when I met you.

You taught me how to love,
You showed me how tomorrow and today
My life is diff'rent from the yesterday;
And you, you taught me how to love
And darling I will always cherish you
Today, tomorrow and forever.

And I'm sure when evening comes around
I know we'll be making love like never before;
My love, who could ask for more?

You gave me a reason for my being
And I love what I'm feelin'
You gave me a meaning to my life,
Yes, I've gone beyond existing
And it all began when I met you.
When I met you.

You gave me a reason for my being
And I love what I'm feelin'
You gave me a meaning to my life,
Yes, I've gone beyond existing
And it all began when I met you.
When I met you.

Deeper Meaning

A lot of people were wondering and have been asking us why would we still need to be married in a church ceremony while we’re already married on a civil rite a year ago. My answer was it was really on our priority plans and the civil rite was just a prelude to that big event. Partly true, until we had our pre-cana seminar at the church yesterday where I had some realizations or should I say has been reminded of the real purpose of a church wedding.

I want to bring back again those times when people asked me the reason of our church wedding. I want to tell them that as devout Catholics, we want to acquire God’s blessings in our new state of life by receiving the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. That’s it, the true purpose of the pre-cana seminar, to remind us of the things we know since it was being taught ever since elementary but we seemed to forget it over time. I should’ve said the seminar already had served its purpose at the start since I’ve been knocked on my head about the things I’m supposed to know. I can’t stay long enough the whole day listening to the lecture. But it was a pre-requisite so endurance is a must =).

However, the seminar was not a total bore though. The first speaker was a San Miguel retiree and has been married for almost 40 years to an ADB retiree too. Both retired as executives from the country’s biggest companies so weren’t surprised that they live and now enjoy their lives inside Ayala Alabang. At first we thought he was a priest as we expect to conduct the seminar and a lot of couples greeted him “Good morning Father.” but he wasn’t.. hahaha =D He somehow did well in contributing and giving advice to soon-to-be-married couples based on his 40 years of marriage experience. The last speaker in the afternoon was a nun. Even she, questioned herself why she was giving such seminars where she hasn’t been married at all. But her topic which is catholic catechism find her in authority to discuss it.

Well, let me enumerate the things that we learned and recalled:

• Since Holy Matrimony is one of the 7 sacraments in our catholic faith, those who chose married life as their calling must receive it.
• There are two valid reasons a wife can deny her husband of sex
  - If the wife is praying to her God.
  (** The speaker joked about his wife becoming so prayerful..hehehe **)
  - If the wife is sick.
  The reason the subject here is the wife because husbands will have no reason at all to refuse once their “thing” is up.. hehehe
• We finally got a very valid answer on the infamous anecdote on whose to save in a drowning situation: your wife or your mother? Most answers I’ve heard (as well as mine) is to save our mother, because she’s our mother and we’re bloodline compared to our husband/wife. But marriage cleared out the haze and the answer is we must save our husband/wife because of the vows we exchanged, for better or for worse, ‘til death do us part. =)
• As written also in the bible that a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be united to his wife; and they shall become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). We therefore need to get our own house hopefully within next year. =)

Canonical Interview

Canonical is an adjective derived from canon. It essentially means “standard”, “generally accepted” or “part of the backstory”.

We felt anxious somehow on what are we going to do as our canonical interview day is getting very near. I texted our wedding coordinator the day before (that was Monday) on what to expect on the interview and she told us to relax coz it’s just for formality sake. We’ll just be asked on our family and educational background. Indeed she was correct.

We were given a questionnaire at first and the church coordinator told us to fill it up. We felt dumbfounded when we’re told to fill up everything including the spaces that are suppose to be filled up by our interviewer, the priest.

The priest who interviewed us was stiff. Since Marvin and I were products of catholic schools ever since elementary, he only asked us few questions. I regard those as comments and not questions coz everything was already written in the questionnaire. I didn’t agree on his comment that our church wedding will only be a validation coz we were already married on a civil rite last year. We did that because of the legal documents and we want to be married in the church to receive the Holy Sacrament of Matrimony. This is how we see it.

Anyways, we’re somehow glad that our canonical interview was not a lengthy one as compared to other couples who received an untimely sermon from their priest interviewers. We still had the time to stroll around the malls that we definitely miss when we’re still staying in Alabang.

Chasing time

Time flies so fast to a busy person. And that time really does fly when we’re having fun. Or at least, it flies when our attention is engaged.

Two months starting today, we are keeping all our fingers crossed that all our laid out plans will be perfectly executed. The places below will become one of the landmarks in our lives as we transformed them into beautiful and romantic venues to celebrate our love.

The church

The reception

The EXcounter

From the time we decided not to bring the car anymore on ordinary days but commute instead, my husband suspects that sooner or later, he and his ex-girlfriend’s paths would cross again since we’re just some blocks away from their residence and she also happen to work around the area within the vicinity of our office. Indeed it happened very soon.

The first encounter was a Friday night when we ate dinner first before going home since it’s already late. The three of us rode the same shuttle on our way home. =) I didn’t see her (or it’s because I already forgot how she looked like), my hubby did. It was only during halfway our ride when my hubby disclosed her to me and that’s the time I knew the reason why he’s very agitated from the moment we stepped into the shuttle. Immediately after the ride, we can’t help but to ask each other our thoughts and feelings. We had the same thought – “What was she thinking?” =)

The second meeting was prevented beforehand by my husband because he chose not to ride that shuttle. He saw her again at the front seat, I didn’t (as usual). We went home early that time so we opt to wait at the shuttle terminal just a block away in front of our office building. We thought we’ll not meet her there since it’s a bit far from where she work. She might be thinking the same too. All of us were wrong.

And the recent encounter was this morning on our way to the office while we were on queue waiting for a ride. She passed by us after disembarking from a jeepney since we’re in front of the queue. But this time my husband forewarned me about her presence that’s why I become aware. We doubted her lining up on a different queue. Perhaps to avoid the three of us riding the same shuttle again.

I only see scenes of encountering with an Ex on TV commercials. Never thought it can happen to us. It’s indeed such a small world.

Revived Throne

I can barely remember how I grew fond of bowling. All I can recall was I used to cheer Mama whenever she played duckpin bowling during our school's PTA sportsfest when we were still in elementary. I always ask her to play for my Grade level and not with my siblings (parents of grades 1 to 6 students will have a team that will compete for the championship) because she's very good at bowling and I wanted our Grade level to win. I can also remember watching my grandmother's brother joining the city's bowling tournament and the countless recognition he got from it. Perhaps it's with my early exposure on that sport that led me to it.

I started playing with duckpin when I was in highschool. My mother doesn't like me to be involved on that sport because of my very frail physique but I never heeded her advice because I love what I'm doing. The first time I experienced playing with tenpin bowling was when I was already working. It became our Friday or weekend pastime with friends and officemates. My hubby who was my boyfriend then insisted on me to get serious on bowling since he saw in me the potential to excel on that sport but I just simply turn my back on his comments because it never crossed my mind to join bowling clubs and tournaments. I just play for the love of playing bowling. Not soon enough, I bought my first and only second-hand bowling ball. Followed by the accessories (shoes, bags, wrist support, etc.) that my hubby bought for me to show his support. That was when I won in our company bowling tournaments.

From then on I strive hard to always be the best female bowler in our company’s annual bowling tournament. I can only remember three incidents where I was never awarded that title. The first one was due to some loopholes on the rules. But I was still happy because my bestfriend-officemate got the award. The second one was so unlucky for me. I got the highest score during the elimination round but someone beat it during the finals. My team was eliminated so I never had the chance to increase my score. The third time was due to my pregnancy that I wasn’t able to attend the tournament. But in reality, I never expected to grab the award again after two years of not striking the pins. My hubby and I practiced just a day before the tournament. Bowling is a muscle memory sport. We never expect to win or get some awards from the tournament because not being able to play for a couple of years already.

Sweet comeback. I got the best female bowler award and my husband's team were in the third place. =)

My winning pose  =)